Highly Anxious 7-Year-Old Separates from Mother, Gains Balance, and Develops Nice Handwriting

Submitted by Anonymous parent

Smiling boy sculpting with playdoh. Text: 'It's like having a different kid.'

BeforeAfter
 Would not leave mother's side  Able to play separately in a different room
 Would not sleep alone  Allows mother to leave the room at night and sleeps alone
 Complained that the bus, cafeteria, and gym were too loud  Not as sensitive to noise
 Had a hard time standing on one leg  Improved balance; steadier and not falling over constantly
 Fatigued when writing  Hands do not get as tired anymore when writing
 Poor penmanship  Teacher says he has nice handwriting!

Due to the pandemic, my husband and I work from home and my 7-year-old child is doing full-time remote learning. We are together practically 24-hours a day. In the beginning, my child would not leave my side. Everywhere I went, he went. At night, he would not sleep alone. I knew that I could not continue like that because I needed my space. Therefore, I chose to start doing the 5-step balance process with the goal of integrating his FPR [Fear Paralysis Reflex].

I kid you not, within about 2-3 sessions, he was letting me leave the room at night and sleeping alone. I had to leave the door open, leave the hallway light on, and talk to him from my bedroom, but still that was a huge difference. I was shocked. I continued to do the 5-step balance with him and I would say within a month or two, he progressed to being able to play separately in a different room.

In the beginning of the course, I felt that the 5-step balance process was just a nice extra and only half-heartedly tried it. But after the success I had using it, I became a firm believer. We now do the 5-step balance every morning before school where we do self-affirmations and acting out of whatever is difficult for him.

Before the pandemic, my son was having behavioral as well as sensory processing issues at school. He complained the bus, cafeteria and gym were too loud. He was tactile defensive when someone touched him. This was an issue whenever kids lined up and accidentally bumped into one another. When he gets anxious, he plays with his tags and sucks his thumb.

On top of that, he could not sit upright for 15 seconds (even when bribed). This came as a shock because he is very athletic. He traversed the monkey bars and learned to ride a bike at 4, completed a triathlon at 6 and got 2nd place, and could hit a baseball without a T at 2-3 years old. We had noticed that he had a hard time sitting still at the kitchen table, but just thought he was fidgety. I did wonder though why after 3 years of martial arts, he still had such a hard time with a standing 1-leg balance.

After going through the course, I tested all 9 reflexes [from the Brain and Sensory Foundations course] and found out he tested positive in every single one. I decided to do rhythmic movements and implement Moro [Reflex] and TLR [Tonic Labyrinthine Reflex] first. After about 6 weeks. I noticed that during TLR testing, he was not swaying as much. After about another 6-8 weeks, the most noticeable change was his standing 1-leg balance in his kung fu class. He is steadier and not falling over constantly. It is like watching a different kid!

I also think that he is not as sensitive to noise. There have been moments where I expect him to be reactive and he is not. But this is an area where he has not been truly challenged due to the pandemic and being at home with remote learning.

After that, I started working on integrating his ATNR [Asymmetrical Tonic Neck Reflex]and STNR [Symmetrical Tonic Neck Reflex] because of his complaints of getting tired when writing, his poor penmanship, visual processing issues, squirming, and fidgeting, and pulling back when a ball is thrown at him.

After about 6-8 weeks, he reported that his hands do not get as tired anymore when writing. Best of all, his teacher says he has nice handwriting! And when he does duck or penguin walking, his arms are not as tied to what his legs are doing. In the beginning, he needed to hold his hands together to keep his arms up during ATNR testing. Now he can do it without holding his hands.

We made substantial progress and hope to see more gains with time, and as we add in more reflexes to work on.

[Edited for length and clarity; emphasis added]

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